TEN STEPS TOWARDS

DEFEATING SELF-HATRED & SHYNESS.

1)     What I’ve been told about me is _________________________.

2)     What I tell me about me is _____________________________.

3)     What I really know about me is _________________________.

4)     When do you punish yourself?  How do you punish yourself?  When do you feel defensive?  How do you defend yourself?  What’s your favorite defense?

5)     When did you first experience anger?  hatred?  guilt?  shame? (recall the circumstances.)  When do you presently experience anger?  hatred?  guilt?  shame?  How old is the part of you that experiences anger?  hatred?  guilt?  shame?  Who in your life comes to mind when you consider anger?  hatred?  guilt?  shame?

6)     Draw a picture of you angry (passionate?).  Draw your “anger mask.”  Describe the qualities of this person, negative and positive.

7)     Write a prescription for yourself that will heal the dis-ease or discomfort you are presently suffering.

8)     What are the things you’ve always wanted someone to say to you, but no one ever has.  Then, ask someone you love to say those things to you.  Ask the child inside you what it needs to hear said to it.  Then, ask someone you love to say those things to you.

9)     Look at pictures of yourself when you were little, and let yourself begin to appreciate that little person.

10) Picture your life at the end.  Looking back, what do you regret?  Is there something you could do now to avoid that regret?

Charles"Chip" August

Relationship Coach

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